Everyone has experienced insecurity at some point in their life; nevertheless, they can demonstrate it in very different ways, depending on their personality, morals and conditioned behaviors, which are often molded by past experiences. For many of us, insecurity has become the foundation of our conventional thinking, bearing a resemblance to humbleness and obedience. In others, it looks like boldness and disobedience, never acknowledging a mistake, and continuously assigning guilt. In one individual, insecurity moves them to evade attention; in another, it pushes them to demand attention.

I think it is vital for you to understand that insecurity is not a stumbling block because it makes you unhappy, but for more serious reasons than that. Here are at least four reasons why insecurity is a stumbling block:

1.            Discontentment with God

In most cases, insecurity is nothing more than complaining for better circumstances, grumbling for something better. In other words, we have a problem with what God has given: money, position, appearance, personality. Insecurity is an insult to God’s wisdom.

“Keep your life free from the love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5

2.            Dissatisfaction with Self

Insecurity distracts us from doing what God has called us to do: love Him and others. It makes life more difficult because we waste time and opportunities obsessing with ourselves. If we pull back the layers of insecurity to the root, we will see our dissatisfaction with self is often nothing more than our dissatisfaction with God.

“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” Psalm 139:14

3.            Validation from Others

Insecurity reveals that we long for validation from people more than from God. We put more focus on attributes we think make us worthy of people’s attention. When our minds are yearning after more social media likes or a better career to increase our value, we forsake the righteousness of Christ that actually makes us worthy. In other words, we only care because they care.

“For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.” Galatians 1:10

4.            Validation by Works

Insecurity demonstrates that we are believing that our validation is based upon our endeavors and accomplishments. Finding self-assurance in those things is a direct rival to finding confidence in Christ.

“In the fear of the Lord one has strong confidence, and his children will have a refuge.” Proverbs 14:26

Nevertheless, I bring you good news:

•             You are loved. (Romans 5:8)

•             You are chosen. (1 Peter 2:9)

•             You are redeemed. (Ephesians 1:7)

•             You are favored. (Psalm 5:12)

•             You are blessed. (Psalm 146:5)

•             You are healed. (1 Peter 2:24)

If you want to experience true security in your life, then you have to form the habit of putting God first in everything in your life — your conversations, how you spend your time, what you do with your finances — everything! You must keep your eyes focused on Jesus and learn to love and be content with His plan and calling for your life.

God has a desire for you to live with deep contentment in your heart, but you can only experience this when you spend time with Him every day. And if you do, your joyfulness and peace will increase, and you will finally be utterly secure in Him, becoming who He created you to become.